Giving the Good Guys a Chance
By Katie Michaels writing for www.DatingOnline.net
It’s difficult to say why so many women like bad boys.
Perhaps there is a certain allure to dating someone who seems to be slightly on the edge—slightly dangerous. Bad boys are extremely seductive, charming and they know how to treat a gal in bed. We get an endorphin rush from spending time with these creatures—they make us feel giddy, sexy and naughty. And then, in a heartbeat, they’re gone. It’s very typical for a romance with a bad boy to be over quickly. They’re not the type to be committed. We take a deep breath, realize we just experienced the best sex of our lives, grieve for our broken hearts and move on.
So the question is what is wrong with a good guy?
Recently, a close friend of mine starting dating a man who had very little experience with women and relationships. No, he wasn’t a virgin but he may as well have been. On the one hand, he was shy and awkward and nervous around her, but on the other hand he was polite, respectful, trustworthy and most importantly, head over heels for her. She was just recovering from a whirlwind affair with…you guessed it…a bad boy. So this new man’s quiet and reserved ways were almost like a balm for her bruised heart.
As their relationship developed she realized the many perks that come with being with someone who his calmer and more stable than her usual choices of men. This sweet guy was so ready and willing to please her, both sexually and otherwise, he wanted her to take the lead and he wanted her to teach him how to give her what she wanted. How amazing is that? And how often do we get that opportunity? Initially, my friend wasn’t interested in being the more dominant one in the relationship, but as time went by and her beau gained more confidence he started to become the man she always wanted.
No, their relationship is not always exciting. Sometimes she says it’s downright boring. But she now realizes that relationships don’t always need to be filled with drama and constant heart-racing moments. She is glad to get off the roller coaster of a non-committed man. And she says she feels like she’s truly found out what love is for the first time in her life.
Love shouldn’t be filled with panic-stricken moments as you constantly wait for the phone to ring. When her new man says he’ll call her, he does. She doesn’t need to worry if he’s with another gal. And when she asks for a dose of romance to add spark to their relationship, he’s right there with a bouquet of flowers and a romantic dinner.
So let that be a lesson to you ladies out there. Don’t immediately dismiss the good guy, the nerd or the shy, awkward stranger who looks at you longingly. If you’re looking for a solid, dependable, loving, trusting partner, this could be your guy. And if he’s willing to learn, like my friend’s man was, you actually can shape this man into your perfect mate. Sometimes all these guys need is a woman’s touch and you can be the one to give them a miraculous make-over inside and out.
Bad boys will always be tantalizing and tempting, but if you’re looking for monogamy, commitment and stability, good guys will always be the ultimate winners in that department.
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xiang says:
Hi Heyley,
I came across your profile by chance today browsing daygame.com. interestingly enough i am currently writing my summer essay about psychoanalysis and CBT, due in 2 weeks which i am still not sure.
nice meeting you here, i am reading your article, and hopefully read a bit more when i can spare some more time….
xiang
Hayley Quinn says:
Good luck with the essay!
Dan says:
Hi Hayley I think Katie Micheals nailed it in this article! I’m not going to give up on finding a gal who has self respect and good values.